Rules Of Dating

The trouble with dating is that are some rules that need to be followed, most of which we tend to forget with age. When we are young, you see, our friends at schools and colleges underline the way potential dates should be dealt. Yes, you would look best if you wear that, no you shouldn’t be saying that, yes should behave in this way, but no never that way. This way we grow up. For a certain period, we are absolutely aware of the dating tendencies we practice the same whenever we meet someone new. But then, perhaps we meet somebody, fall in love with that person and have a relationship. Slowly, the things we have learned over those decisive years of dealing with the other sex vanish and are forgotten.

Then again, one fine day, we willingly thrust ourselves back into the dating scene single and un-attached wanting to learn the rules of dating just to discover ourselves behaving as if we were 12 year olds. We make dates too frequently, we are always vacant in conversation, and we find ourselves wearing the wrong clothes, foolishly laughing at sickening jokes, date the wrong type of girl and usually mess things up entirely. After that, we either get hurt or are taken for a ride for our money. Of course, some of you reading this rightly typify the sophistication of dating, but the fact is that the loss of heart induces the loss of head. Therefore, give these dating dos and don’ts some serious contemplation if you want your date to go well and be successful. These dating rules are of crucial importance if you aspire to win and maintain with your ideal match.

Dating Rules – The Dos 

1. Try to appear your best and be prompt when it comes to your dates.
2. Have a great deal of fun on your date. The Mr. and Ms. Right is a serious business but dating should be pure fun, so try to keep it like that.
3. Flatter your date and complement on the way they are appearing and what they are wearing. People generally put in a lot of effort on the way they look for date, so they will love if they are told that they are looking good.
4. Try to be interesting and be interested on your date. As someone once told me, “I wasn’t bored because I wasn’t boring” or something similar to this. I’m sure you understand what I’m talking about.
5. Let someone know if you are not expecting to date him/her again. It is a malicious act (I mean it strongly) to be lied to and if false hopes are kept alive. Let them know as nicely as possible if you are not interested in meeting them again.
6. Only date the kind of people you sincerely like and find yourself attracted to, irrespective of what your friends tell you. Your peers approving something doesn’t prove anything! Live your own life …
7. Remain positive even when a date does not seem to end so well. It is only obvious for you to get practice, so date a few frogs before you find your princess. Remember that you will meet some very nice people along the way, possibly establishing some favorable contacts.
8. Dating should be treated as an ingenious recreation, which calls for much energy and concentration. Therefore, whenever you are dating it is best to have some plans beforehand so as to take your date to some of the most engaging places your city has to offer.
9. Take charge and make the dating happen for you and not to you. It is no point waiting for someone to call you up wanting a date (seriously girls DON’T call, you should make it happen for yourself. Dating calls for constructive action so go out and meet as many people as possible. You can go about practicing your flirting skills and chatting to bar attendants, shop-keepers, etc, etc. Being good with people is fun and sexy at the same time.
10. Surround yourself with people who think alike and are dating as well. The last thing you want to do is hang around single people with single problems. Bear in mind the girls from the like of Sex and the City cherish the way they help each other out in romantic affairs and dates. Unenthusiastic friends, who disapprove of dating or suffer a lack of understanding will do nothing but lower the expectation you have for yourself and bring about a negative feeling towards your date. So take a break from your single friends for awhile.

 Dating Rules – The Don’ts 

1. Do not call up anyone more than once a day unless they call in reply. Instability and desperation are major reasons for turnoffs and ending dating relationships.
2. Do not date such people who, you find are negative, it WILL rub off on you. These dating rules may be strict however they’re here for your assistance.
3. If you are a man, you should never arrive late for your date, even when you have a reason whatsoever. You should never keep a woman waiting or never make them seat themselves.
4. Never lie to your date or pose to be something you are not. If someone is your perfect match, do not let it be spoiled by some silly lies you had earlier told. She will find out.
5. Do not be too available. If you are available every weeknight or everytime she calls you no longer become a challenge so this makes you uninteresting and soon you’ll be her next doormat. Try to be busy, interesting and generally unavailable as this will increase her attraction towards you.
6. Don’t not disclose yourself entirely at the very beginning. Most people love a certain degree of mystery and letting your date know everything about your on Day will ruin everything in no time. Try to give only a small bit every time.
7. Never check out other girls while your date is with you. Although you might think that you are being subtle, your date might think otherwise, making her way towards the door. Be courteous and concentrate on your date alone.
8. Try to be polite and be reasonable with the drinks. Manners and courtesy will be rewarding.
9. Do not exchange personal details, like your residential phone number or your address on your very first date. Keep them a secret until you are convinced about your date and its possibilities in the future. Who knows she may become your next stalker? What if the date goes bad as the last thing you want is for a date with a grudge to know where you live…

Your Friend, 

Alex