Attract Women By Breaking Rapport
Breaking Rapport To Attract More Women
She is a stunning blonde sitting alone at the bar. The first guy, let’s call him Adam, approaches her and starts a conversation. Things go well, and eventually he asks her “so, what do you do for a living?” She responds “I’m a nurse”.
Adam responds “Oh wow, sexy and caring, that’s great” then continues with “you know, nurses don’t get paid enough for all the hard work you do”.
Adam is attempting to build rapport. He wants her to like him. He has paid her a compliment and has shown empathy about her job. As the conversation continues, he will probably agree with everything she says, even if he believes the opposite.
Now another guy, John, enters the bar and approaches her. After a few minutes of conversation, he asks her the same question “what do you do for a living?” and she answers “I’m a nurse”. But his response totally throws her off …
“A nurse? Does that mean you like washing old people’s bottoms?” she looks at him, with a surprised look on her face. She can’t believe what he just said, and playfully slaps him on the arm. She begins to qualify herself, explaining that her job does not involve washing anyone’s bottoms.
As the conversation continues, John playfully challenges some of the things she says. He is never rude. He never *negs* or intentionally offends her.
She becomes curious about him, wondering why he is acting different to all the other guys. She actually enjoys the conversation more, because she is taken on an emotional rollercoaster ride. She is kept on her toes, wondering if he likes her or not, and guessing what he will say next.
Most attractive women are used to men trying to build rapport with them. It’s a very boring conversation when someone agrees with everything you say.
However, when you break rapport by disagreeing or playfully challenging her, you stand out from all the other guys who attempt to build rapport with her.
Think about it. This is what high value men or “bad boys” do. They challenge women with their own opinions and beliefs. They don’t put attractive women on a pedestal. Instead, they make fun of them, whenever the opportunity presents itself.
Here are some examples of breaking rapport …
HER: “I love olives”.
YOU: “Really? I think olives taste like rubber”
HER: “Will you buy me a drink?”
YOU: “I don’t know you well enough yet. Tell me about yourself …”
HER: “Have you seen the new Brad Pitt movie?”
YOU: “Why would I? Brad Pitt is gay.”
Another way of breaking rapport is using self-depreciating humour. It’s especially powerful when women attempt to build rapport with you. You’re not accepting her indicators of interest too easily. You’re more of a challenge.
HER: “Lets go dance”
YOU: “No thanks. I dance like a retard”.
HER: “What are you doing on Saturday night?”
YOU: “Probably playing World of Warcraft with my buddies online”.
HER: “How old are you?”
YOU: “What’s with all of the questions? Are you a cop or something?”
Another easy way of breaking rapport is to focus your attention on something or somebody else, for a while. In the middle of conversation with a woman, you may shift your focus to her friend (or your friend) and ask them a random question.
Or you may interrupt her mid conversation, because you suddenly noticed a fascinating painting, object, or event nearby. Give that “thing” all of your attention and make comments about it.
She wonders why, unlike other guys, you are not giving her your full attention. You seem less needy and appear to have higher value.
Breaking rapport is a powerful way of demonstrating that you’re an attractive, high value man with your own opinions and interests, other than her.
JACK AUTHOR BIO
Jack is the co-founder of Succeed At Dating and a superstar at day game.
The art of meeting and attracting women in the daytime. Jack
offers live, in-field training workshops at DayGameSecrets.com
3 Mistakes That Men Make With Women
I’m about to share with you some of the biggest mistakes guys make when trying to meet women in everyday situations.
If you really want to become the guy who can walk into ANY coffee shop, book store or supermarket and walk out with 3 to 4 phone numbers or dates from hot women – then you’ve got to make sure you don’t commit these mistakes.
And yes, every guy makes these mistakes. (Yes, even you buddy!)
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MISTAKE #1: Failure To Approach
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The #1 reason why guys don’t approach women is because they think too much. Common thoughts are …
> “What if she rejects me in front of everyone?”
> “I don’t know WHAT to say”
> “She looks busy and probably doesn’t want to be disturbed”
> “A girl that hot definitely has a boyfriend”
These are disempowering thoughts, my friend.
And they’re stopping you from taking the first crucial step to meeting attractive women.
Do you want to eliminate this type of negative thinking?
You can. But you must first understand where these thoughts are coming from.
The answer is FEAR.
You’re afraid of rejection.
You’re afraid of embarrassing yourself in public.
You’re afraid of women thinking you’re a creep.
And whatever other negative thoughts your brain comes up with.
Now here’s the solution. The quickest way to reduce yourfears and negative thoughts is by DOING what you fear most.
I remember being terrified of heights. But then a friend talked me into bungee jumping and now I’m not scared at all.
So how do you get over your fear of approaching women?
You start by doing “warm up sets”.
You begin approaching random people in the street and asking them for directions.
After a few “approaches” you’ll soon realize how easy approaching women is. You’ll realize that most people didn’t reject you (and if they did, they were probably so polite, you didn’t care anyway).
After this experience, you’ll be far more likely to approach some HOT women.
Sound simple? That’s because it IS simple. But don’t be a fool and dismiss this technique without trying it first. Trust me, you’ll be glad you did.
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MISTAKE #2: You Don’t Know WHAT To Say
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I’ve seen this happen again and again.
A guy works up the courage to approach a woman and start a conversation. She enjoys his company and things are going great.
But then, just minutes later, she walks off!
You ask him “what happened?” And he tells you”I ran out of things to say. She got bored and left.”
Now, was that the truth?
The answer is NO.
The truth is, every guy (including you) have VOLUMES of interesting stories and topics you can talk to women about. There is no need for you to run out of things to say.
I’ve noticed that guys who are successful with womenhave one trait that losers do not. They talk A LOT.
They keep women occupied with regular conversation while their brain thinks of banter lines, cocky comedyand attraction stories to tell her.
You can do the same. Start by opening a hottie yousee on the street or at the mall with an opinion opener.And while she’s giving you her opinion, relax and letyour brain think of cool things to say.
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MISTAKE #3: You Don’t State Your Intent!
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I don’t care what the gurus say …
At some point, a woman needs to know how you feel about her.
If you don’t tell her that you’re attracted to her, then she might put you in the dreaded “friends basket.”
Some of the smoothest pickup artists I’ve seen “in-action”will tell women how they feel about them within MINUTES.
And when you do this, you will generate attraction in womenreally, really FAST. Go ahead and try it. You’ll be blown away.
Now here are some examples of “going direct.”
HER: “…I spent the last 3 years living in Japan”
YOU: “You lived in Japan? That’s SO cool. I love a womanwho is adventurous and travels. I think it’s such a rare and attractive trait. Wow, you can be my new tour guide of Japan!”
HER: “He he, sure!”
So what you need to do is directly TELL her that you’reattracted to her (more than just her looks).
Your Friend,
Alex
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