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		<pubDate>Thu, 30 Apr 2009 17:56:40 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Alex</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[So the million-dollar question is do you take risks with your interactions with women? Do you try new ideas or do you stick with what gets you average results? Here’s why I ask: Women LOVE men that are risk takers because they can never predict what will happen next. This leads them on and on [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p><img class="alignleft size-full wp-image-828" title="512" src="http://www.succeedatdating.com/blog/wp-content/uploads/2009/04/512.jpg" alt="512" width="229" height="320" />So the million-dollar question is do you take risks with your interactions with women?</p>
<p>Do you try new ideas or do you stick with what gets you average results?</p>
<p>Here’s why I ask:</p>
<p>Women LOVE men that are risk takers because they can never predict what will happen next. This leads them on and on and on waiting for your next move …very similar to playing a game of checkers.</p>
<p><strong>Risk taking = Adventure<br />
</strong><br />
In my travels I’ve met a lot of ‘naturals’ with women and I had to give credit where credits due, with my friend Mark who is perhaps the most risk-taking i.e. extremely adventuress guy I know.</p>
<p>***************************************<br />
Why Mark Is Successful With HOT Women<br />
***************************************</p>
<p>Mark is what I call a kick ass smooth talking natural.</p>
<p>We head to shopping centers most weekends (when they’re PACKED with HOT women) and we <a href="http://www.alexcoulson.com/2007/12/approach-anxiety-stop-anxiety-approach.html"><span style="color: #336699;">approach</span></a> like horny mad men … (without the foaming at the mouth part) …</p>
<p>Mark is nothing special, 5”4, average looks and he works out a lot so he’s got some mass which helps somewhat …</p>
<p><img class="alignleft size-full wp-image-830" title="553" src="http://www.succeedatdating.com/blog/wp-content/uploads/2009/04/553.jpg" alt="553" width="320" height="320" />He wears a bright t-shirt with Elmo from Sesame Street printed on it and <a href="http://www.alexcoulson.com/2007/12/approach-anxiety-stop-anxiety-approach.html"><span style="color: #336699;">approaches</span></a> hot women asking whether Elmo is a boy or a girl …</p>
<p>I totally love the way he does this!</p>
<p>It’s amazing how he gets these super hotties drawn into his discussion and before you know he has pulled them away from their friends “to show them something cool” and snap, crackle and pop he’s playing <a href="http://www.alexcoulson.com/2007/12/kissing-tips-for-men-5-ways-to-score.html"><span style="color: #336699;">tongue twister</span></a> with them.</p>
<p>Okay …before you bombard the department stores with a fistful of cash screaming at the sales clerk for your very colorful “I LOVE ELMO” printed t-shirt …</p>
<p>I’m going to save you the time and tell you it wasn’t his shirt that got attraction, nor was it his Elmo conversation starter … It was his RISK- TAKING Mindset …</p>
<p>Mark is a very energetic “bloke” (Aussie way of saying guy) and he takes risks. This makes him fun to be around and women love fun n interesting guys!</p>
<p>Taking risks doesn’t always have to involve jumping off bridges, or base jumping from the rooftop of your work building (this actually was to be my unique method of quitting my job. I would hand in my resignation and take the lift to the rooftop and glide pass my desk and work colleagues on level 23)</p>
<p>I’m a melodramatic kind of guy as you can see …</p>
<p>So back to the story …the opposite of boring is exciting right?</p>
<p>So Mark takes risks by saying the most outrageous script he can get away with to a HOT woman.</p>
<p>And he gets away with it too!</p>
<p>Here’s a quick snippet from a phone conversation I overheard from a girl he met just the previous day at a shopping center:<br />
<img class="alignleft size-full wp-image-829" title="555" src="http://www.succeedatdating.com/blog/wp-content/uploads/2009/04/555.jpg" alt="555" width="320" height="219" />“What color panties are you wearing”<br />
“&#8212;-“<br />
“haha …of course I’m serious ….Don’t make me repeat myself haha”<br />
“&#8212;&#8211;“<br />
“Niiiiice … I like that. Are they Cotton?”<br />
“&#8212;&#8212;“<br />
“Niiiiice …I’m a cotton guy, most my clothing is cotton”<br />
“&#8212;&#8212;-?”<br />
“What color underwear am I wearing? Haha I’ve been freeballing since 2004 baby! Haha”</p>
<p>Unique conversations are <a href="http://www.alexcoulson.com/2008/01/energize-your-conversations-with-women.html"><span style="color: #336699;">interesting conversations</span></a>.</p>
<p>He gets some pretty powerful reactions from women because NO GUY has BALLS to say this stuff to SUPER HOTTIES. It’s just not in their reality that guys will ask them this, and when they do guess what? There’s a chemical reaction explosion and women are compelled to get to know Mark even more …</p>
<p>Comprehendez?</p>
<p>And what if a girl reacts differently to the above? Then Mark shrug it off, say “NEXT!” and he calls his next girl on the list and says the exact same thing.</p>
<p>So go out and get some phone numbers and practice this, you may feel more comfortable practicing on some girls you’re not really interested in to start with and then work your way to the hottest.</p>
<p>You will be amazed at the results I promise!</p>
<p>I’ll talk to you again soon</p>
<p>Your friend,</p>
<p>Alex</p>
<p>http://www.alexcoulson.com</p>
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		<title>Masculinity: Become a Man and Get the Girl</title>
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		<pubDate>Thu, 30 Apr 2009 12:53:23 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Alex</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[As much as you hear about nonsense &#8211; like women want sensitive men the fact is they really want real men. That&#8217;s why chicks go for jerks and get their hearts broken, then keep going after the same type. Why? They&#8217;re attracted to them. Duh! You don&#8217;t see chicks fawning all over frickin&#8217; limp wristed [...]]]></description>
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<p>As much as you hear about nonsense &#8211; like women want sensitive men the fact is they really want real men. That&#8217;s why chicks go for jerks and get their hearts broken, then keep going after the same type. Why? They&#8217;re attracted to them. Duh!</p>
<p>You don&#8217;t see chicks fawning all over frickin&#8217; limp wristed pansies. Chicks want real men. Here are a few tips to help you establish your identity and create your masculine image.</p>
<p>*Stop conforming to what you think women want in men; what each woman wants is uniquely different some want a adventurous guy, whereas others want a SNAG (sensitive new age guy) to agree with her feelings and do the washing up.</p>
<p>That was a joke! : ) but women don’t want a specific stereotype of guy. SO stop trying to fit into just one stereotype.</p>
<p>*Stop learning palm reading, handwriting analysis to attract women. Learning these JUST to attract women is lame and women will see through the façade.</p>
<p>It’ll do more harm than good. If you have a GENUINE interest in these areas or work in these fields then by all means, however if you work as an accountant and suddenly jump up and start reading her palm she’ll laugh at you.</p>
<p>*Start adopting some of the masculine traits men have, the traits our ancestors have used to attract women. DO you think your grandparents used palm reading on your grandmother? Or met her at a yoga class?</p>
<p> </p>
<p><img class="alignleft size-full wp-image-729" title="931" src="http://www.succeedatdating.com/blog/wp-content/uploads/2009/04/931.jpg" alt="931" width="238" height="320" /></p>
<p>No chances are it didn’t go down like that. He used the sheer POWER of masculinity to attract her without any gimmicky banter lines or jargon.</p>
<p>Start acting like a MAN.</p>
<p>Don’t get the wrong idea here … the last thing I want you to do is walk outside pick a fight with some poor guy or start acting like a jerk to women.</p>
<p>There’s a fine line I want you to see…</p>
<p>Qualities such as aggressiveness, competitiveness, ambition and dominance are often associated with men being masculine whereas traits such as kindness, sympathy, and pity are regarded as feminine.</p>
<p>Right?</p>
<p>Well doesn&#8217;t this represent a bemused sense of values?</p>
<p>I always disliked aggressiveness and tendencies to dominate in anyone, man or woman; and I abandoned competitiveness in myself when I was young, shortly after finishing school.<br />
Does this make me feminine?</p>
<p>If so let me ask the following questions: Aren&#8217;t the feminine personality traits morally and intellectually superior to the masculine ones?</p>
<p>If someone thinks that a man ought to be &#8220;manly&#8221; and have the masculine behavior traits such as aggressiveness, competitiveness, ambition, etc. then I think that person&#8217;s values are very confused and mixed up.</p>
<p>Women ultimately want STRONG men, men that are strong in character and believe in themselves and their ideals, men that are leaders and don’t look to others for guidance or validation.</p>
<p>You know why chicks like big, tall men? No, not necessarily because they think or care that those guys have big wangs. That&#8217;s mostly a result of we men being obsessed with it rather than women.</p>
<p>The real reason is that the #1 thing women crave is security. Women want to feel safe. Why do so many soccer moms drive SUVs that are more likely to roll over in an accident? They *feel* safer when they&#8217;re in them. If you make women feel at ease around you they will respond to you more than if you were FREAKING THEM OUT. But I digress.</p>
<p>You need to make a girl feel SAFE… STRONG &#8211; - &gt; SAFE</p>
<p>Back to the big man thing, women subconsciously equate bigger, taller men with strength. So those men would be able to better protect them from other cavemen or sabertooth tigers or whatever hazards the world has to offer, and the women feel safer because of that.</p>
<p>Ever heard of a guy named Moby? Whatever he&#8217;s like as a person I don&#8217;t know. But his public image? He&#8217;s a WIMP. &#8220;But he probably gets lots of chicks&#8221;, you say. Don&#8217;t be like that, you&#8217;re not a star.</p>
<p>Be a man.</p>
<p>Your friend,</p>
<p>Alex</p>
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		<title>Being Unapologetic as a Man and Asserting Your Desire</title>
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		<pubDate>Thu, 30 Apr 2009 12:37:24 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Alex</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[If you&#8217;re a typical nice guy, considerate, genuine, likes to talk and have intelligent conversations with women then you MAY have been in this situation before.   Do you ever find that the more you talk to her (without escalating physically) you end up talking yourself out of closing the deal. Suddenly you realise her [...]]]></description>
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<div>If you&#8217;re a typical nice guy, considerate, genuine, likes to talk and have intelligent conversations with women then you <strong>MAY </strong>have been in this situation before.</div>
<p> </p>
<div>Do you ever find that the more you talk to her (without escalating physically) you end up talking yourself out of closing the deal. Suddenly you realise her body shift, the conversation die out to some neutral and boring topic, and she starts looking around the room at other couples possibly thinking &#8220;man why isn&#8217;t this guy making any moves on me, does he like me?&#8221;.</div>
<p> </p>
<div>If you know what I&#8217;m talking about here then keep reading as you&#8217;re not alone, in fact this used to happen to me ALOT. This I consider also a HOT topic when it comes especially to dates.</div>
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<div>You&#8217;re sitting there at the table, opposite each other face to face, had a great meal and a bottle of wine, and you&#8217;re thinking &#8220;How do I kiss this girl from all the way over here&#8221; and my old favorite &#8220;I haven&#8217;t touched this girl all night and it&#8217;s going to seem awkward if I touch her now&#8221; suddenly this distance between you seems to be drawing out and it seems she&#8217;s further and further away from you.</div>
<div><img class="alignleft size-full wp-image-713" title="87" src="http://www.succeedatdating.com/blog/wp-content/uploads/2009/04/87.jpg" alt="87" width="133" height="200" />What eventually happens is you call it a night and you&#8217;re outside the restaurant ready to part ways, and you touch her hand poised to strike her a kiss on the lips &#8230; and she flinches &#8230;. then she looks down at your hand like to question you &#8220;What are you doing&#8221; or &#8220;It&#8217;s too early for hand holding buddy&#8221; and all of a sudden a drip of cold sweat lines your neck and your pulse starts racing, palms get sweaty and all you hear is your heartbeat thumping away like the Swazi bongos. pum pum &#8230; pum pum ..pum pum pum &#8230;</p>
<div>Okay &#8230;</div>
<div>Getting a little dramatic here, well this used to happen to me on MOST DATES and the reason is I let it happen, I knew what to do and how to prevent it from happening again but I was scared to act. That was a long time ago, now this NEVER happens to me as I assert my inhibitions and I don&#8217;t apologise for being a man and thinking AND acting how a man SHOULD act.</div>
<div>I no longer wait for the end of the date, hell no, I kiss her when I feel like kissing, or touching her, puting my arm around her waist when I feel like it. I act on impulse and it&#8217;s worked for me ever since I started doing it.</div>
<div>In each of us there are two processes, the first is what is socially acceptable in the circumstances. i.e. We have a great dinner date, we take a long walk, I drive her home and I get a kiss at the doorstep. May get lucky 2nd or maybe even 3rd date, maybe.</div>
<div><img class="alignleft size-full wp-image-714" title="88" src="http://www.succeedatdating.com/blog/wp-content/uploads/2009/04/88.jpg" alt="88" width="138" height="200" />Then there&#8217;s our inhibitions of what we WANT to do, have a quick dinner, foreplay in the car on the way back to her place, &#8220;Make her surrender and submit&#8221; to you in the bedroom, the kitchen, the lounge room and on the balcony and then you kiss her good night and tell her to call you.</p>
<div>Nice huh &#8230;</div>
<div>The good news and strangely enough the most effective strategy for having more success from the date to the bedroom is to break social norms and follow your inhibitions. Women respond to this more and appreciate this more than the &#8220;nice guy&#8221; approach. Nice guys finish last didn&#8217;t you know? : )</div>
<div>Stop watching chick flicks, where nervous &#8220;sensitive&#8221; actors are making a sissy fool of themselves courting and being gentleman like. Forget hiding behind these social ideals of how dates should go and create the date how YOU want it to go.</div>
<div>The fact is most of us get our knowledge on the dating scene and the &#8220;how to&#8221; on dates from movies.</div>
<div>Answer this honestly do you ever consult your male friends and ask them what to do on a date? Do you ask your siblings, parents or other family what normally goes down? no probably not.</div>
<div>You get the ideals from movies, film, tv and the MEDIA. Yes, that evil media that manipulates men into buying gifts, expensive diamond rings, working 50 hours weeks to get a good car and an expensive apartment so women will be more responsive to them. The fact is women aren&#8217;t much more responsive to this as much as you think, I know of guys who take girls back to their hostels (where they share a room with 20 other people) and they close the deal on a bunk bed. They do this consistently too with beautiful glamour girls.</div>
<div>Women want men pure and simple.</div>
<div>What women want is an un-apologetic man who believes in honesty, being genuine and is unashamed of his desire as a man. If the girl says &#8220;let&#8217;s just be friends&#8221; which is the dreaded friends zone line he would say &#8220;I have enough friends&#8221; and walk away or convey he&#8217;s willing to walk away. Powerful huh.</div>
<div>Women RESPOND to men. Women want MASCULINE MEN to take them in every way possible. They want the man to be most importantly:</div>
<div>-Unapologetic about their desires</div>
<div>-True to themselves (don&#8217;t say things that are meant to impress her)</div>
<div>-Genuine and sincere</div>
<div>Don&#8217;t be ashamed of what you&#8217;re thinking and be open to touching her and kissing her when you feel like it (Don&#8217;t plan it or do it just because this is the moment when you &#8220;should&#8221; touch/kiss her).</div>
<div>I hope you learn from this and start acting out your desires as this is the only TRUE way to live.</div>
<div>Talk soon,</div>
<div>Your friend</div>
<div>Alex Coulson</div>
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