How To Use Self-Amusement To Attract Women
Have you ever had one of those “on” nights where everything you said and did resulted in attraction from women? You felt on top of the world!
Now, on the flip side, have you ever had one of those “bad nights” where women responded negatively and even rejected you?
Your “state” went down and you felt deflated and negative. You may have even sat at the corner table, away from all the nasty women.
So why are some nights great, and other nights terrible? Is it the club, the women, the music, other guys? What makes the difference?
The reason we experience these roller coaster of positive and negative reactions from women, is because of our approval seeking behaviour.
Seeking approval is when you do and say things with the intention of making people like you. You’re trying to impress people. You’re only giving yourself permission to feel good when people respond positively to you.
But if people react negatively or disagree with you, you feel bad. Ultimately, everyone else is in control of your state and your emotions. But not you!
If you’ve ever done something, then waited to see how people around you responded, then you were seeking approval.
Self amusement is the opposite of seeking approval. It’s when you don’t give a F%$#k what other people think. You do what you want because it amuses one person … YOU!
You’re not looking for approval from anybody else. You’re doing and saying what you think is funny. You’re having a great time, making yourself laugh, and boosting your own state.
Now, this doesn’t mean you walk around acting like a jerk. Your intention is not to offend anyone else. Your goal is to amuse yourself!
Self amusement is extremely attractive to women for a few reasons:
1). You don’t care what she thinks.
2). You’re the life of the party (read: social proof)
3). You’re in a fun, playful and excited mood.
4.) She feels effected by your fun, playful energy. She starts to feel great, too!
Let me tell you about my experience with self amusement last Saturday night at one of Sydney’s hottest night clubs.
It was during our night time boot camp, and the student asked me to approach a group of women with him. He wanted me to distract the friends, so he could isolate and focus on the woman he was interested in.
Several minutes into the conversation, one of the women said the word “babies” to one of her friends. So I responded with …
ME: “Did you say you want babies?
HER: “Umm, I dunno”.
ME: “You want to eat babies or make babies?”
HER: “Ha ha, make babies!”
ME: “Look, I can’t guarantee you babies, but we can try making them!”
(whole group) “ha ha ha!”
HER: “I’ve just met you and now we’re making babies!”
ME: “Yes, and everyone at the table has to watch!”
HER: “ha ha ha!”
ME: “But first we have to get married in Vegas. I need to make an honest woman out of you. But don’t worry, you’re ALL INVITED!”
(whole group) “yay!”
So what happened here? Let me start by saying I didn’t plan this. I did not read this in some pua book. This is not a routine. And if you memorise this and repeat it to women in some club – IT WON’T WORK!
That’s because there are three important elements that make self amusement work. Repeat after me …
1.) self amusement must be spontaneous!
2.) self amusement must be your own personal humour!
3.) self amusement must be funny and make you laugh!
Let me explain my own personal style of humour …
One way is to purposefully misunderstand what a woman is saying as something overly sexual (see conversation example above). It’s the old frame of “are you hitting on me?”
I also enjoy self-depreciating humour. So if a woman asks me what I do for a living, I might tell her I clean toilets, or drive buses. If she asks me where I am from, I tell her “the peoples republic of Congo”.
Or I’ll purposefully embarrass my wing men. While they’re talking to a hot woman, I’ll interrupt them with a pat on the shoulder while pretending to whisper, “excuse me Tom, your shift isn’t over yet. Would you mind cleaning out the toilets before you go please?” This is hilarious!
Remember, the more fun you have, the more attracted women will be to you. Stop trying to impress women or make them like you. It won’t work and women will sense that you are trying to “get something” from them.
Self amusement is simply a great way to be the life of the party and attract women at the same time.
Female Fan Sends Me This (The Attraction Summit)
Filed under: Attracting Women, day game, daygame, pick up artist
The other day I received this email from a woman called Casey.
She attached an “interesting” pic of herself.
“Hey Alex,
I love your videos and I have been reading your blog posts
for a while. I heard about your attraction summit seminar,
and I really want to come!
Do you need any more super girls for the summit? I used to
model at my other job, so I can probably help out.
Let me know if you need me, Alex
Cheers,
Casey
I uploaded the “interesting” PIC.
WHAT ABOUT YOU?
Have you booked your seat yet? We are already 54% SOLD OUT.
Go here to reserve your seat today.
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If you live in Australia, then you don’t want to miss this seminar.
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Go here to reserve your seat today.
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We won’t be organising another seminar in Australia for
at least another year. You don’t want to miss this one.
Looking forward to meeting you there!
Alex Coulson
he other day I received this email from a woman called Casey.
She attached an “interesting” pic of herself (see link below).
“Hey Alex,
I love your videos and I have been reading your blog posts
for a while. I heard about your attraction summit seminar,
and I really want to come!
Do you need any more super girls for the summit? I used to
model at my other job, so I can probably help out.
Let me know if you need me, Alex J
Cheers,
Casey
I uploaded the “interesting” PIC she sent me to my blog.
See the PIC here <insert link>
WHAT ABOUT YOU?
Have you booked your seat yet? We are already 54% SOLD OUT.
Go here to reserve your seat today.
http://www.theattractionsummit.com/
If you live in Australia, then you don’t want to miss this seminar.
Featuring 10 of the worlds most famous attraction coaches and
two solid days of awesome, brand new content.
Go here to reserve your seat today.
http://www.theattractionsummit.com/
We won’t be organising another seminar in Australia for
at least another year. You don’t want to miss this one.
Looking forward to meeting you there!
Alex Coulson
Approaching Women and Attracting Women In Bars & Clubs – Full Video Interview Valued At $97
Filed under: approach women, Attracting Women, pick up artist
Interview Part 1
This is a two part video program I created for my subscribers on “Approaching Women In Bars”. It’s split into two interviews each around 30 minutes long. This program was going to retail for $97 however we’re giving it away to my subscribers free of charge.
Interview Part 2
Enjoy
To your success
Alex
Using Pick Up Lines to Start Conversations With Women?
Filed under: Attracting Women, dating younger women, day game, daygame, pick up artist, talk to women
This is another video from a guest contributor to our video blog and youtube channel.
Approaching Women and Attracting Women – How To Start Conversations
Filed under: approach women, Attracting Women, confidence with women, day game, daygame, pick up artist
This is a guest vlogger for succeed at dating. Her name is Kate.
In this video you’ll learn how to approach women and pick up women during the daytime without fear. Specifically how to stop a woman in the mall, timing of the approach and how to start the conversation.
Enjoy,
Alex
Attracting Women In Supermarkets- How I “Pushed” Myself To Do More Approaches
Okay so for this video I reveal how I overcame a huge stepping stone to meeting women. GO OUT and IMMERSE yourself in the places where you would like to approach women thereby FORCING yourself to do the approaches. Supermarkets, grocery stores, shopping centers, parks, streets etc you name them, you can do it!.. Just force yourself in these scenarios on a daily basis and you’ll eventually do an approach.
Oh and here is how to START conversations with women in supermarkets
http://www.succeedatdating.com/blog/articles/how-to-pick-up-women-in-supermarkets/
How To Create and Form DHV Stories To Make Women Attracted To You
In this short video I outline some quick ways on how I formed my DHV stories. Don’t forget to adapt the stories to your style.
Warmest and to your success with women!
Alex
DHV Storytelling Revealed : How To Create Attraction With Stories PART 2
Click Here To Go To Conversation Master Class
What You Will Learn In This Video Training Session
How to use storytelling to have fun and exciting conversations that LAST (and avoid awkward silences that often kill attraction). It’s usually also because of these silences that most guys (we’re all sinners of this one) tend to walk away prematurely just because of the fact that you may run out of things to say or talk about.
AND …Listen in to several of my attraction stories … and then listen as I dissect the story and explain why it’s so powerful.
Enjoy the video!
To your success and nothing less
Alex Coulson
p.s If you are serious about mastering storytelling and the art of conversation check out Conversation Master Class training program for plenty of samples to see what you’ll be investing in.
Click Here To Go To Conversation Master Class
DHV Storytelling Revealed : How To Create Attraction With Stories PART 1
Click Here To Go To Conversation Master Class
What You Will Learn In This Video Training Session
How to use storytelling to have fun and exciting conversations that LAST (and avoid awkward silences that often kill attraction). It’s usually also because of these silences that most guys (we’re all sinners of this one) tend to walk away prematurely just because of the fact that you may run out of things to say or talk about.
AND …Listen in to several of my attraction stories … and then listen as I dissect the story and explain why it’s so powerful.
Enjoy the video!
To your success and nothing less
Alex Coulson
p.s If you are serious about mastering storytelling and the art of conversation check out Conversation Master Class training program for plenty of samples to see what you’ll be investing in.
Click Here To Go To Conversation Master Class
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