Art of Seduction – Learning Seduction Takes Time
So you’re learning seduction huh …
Having fun is important when learning the art of seduction as it constantly keeps you motivated and moving on to become better.
You will find that on your journey to becoming a transformed casanova that sometimes you can be feeling down on yourself (this happens to a lot of guys and its completely natural).
If you’re approaching plenty of women and not getting the reactions you seek then its natural to feel slightly de-motivated to continue, which is why MOST guys give up the game within the first 3 months.
As humans we seek quick fixes and instant results. Sometimes you can start seeing immediate results and sometimes (more often than not) results are slow to realize.
When I run my seduction workshops most guys are at beginner level and haven’t approached many women before, by the end of the night they’ve approached at least 50 women! And they realize instant results and they achieve an ultimate level of state, they feel amazing and want more.
Other seduction workshops I run students are at differ levels of seduction learning and prefer to focus on a key point of attraction, which we do and they again see amazing results.
Have you ever been to the gym and tried to gain muscle mass?
You work out for 1 solid week, stressing muscles, sweating all over the place, red in the face, huffing and puffing … all that effort! And when you look in the mirror after two weeks you’re still the same weight!
I find that I stopped and started the gym visits for the last few years depending on my state. I might watch a bruce lee movie and get instantly motivated again and go back, and again after a few weeks… I see no results so I give up.
It’s a cycle and I kept repeating this.
The same principle applies especially when learning seduction.
Instant results are RARE (but can happen) : )
A key to excelling fast in the art of seduction is accepting that this can be a long or short road and it all depends on your willingness to learn and your comfort levels at this point in time.
Below are some simple steps you can follow to keep up the spirits and continue learning the art of seduction while making it FUN.
1.Have no agenda; if you have no agenda or outcome then logically you cant be disappointed. If you head out for a night on the town with a ‘purpose’ or mission i.e getting 10 phone numbers, X amount of make-outs and you don’t acheive these set goals then you’ll feel slightly anxious.I’ll talk to you soon!
Your friend
Alex Coulson
The Pick Up Artists Life – The Persistent Attitude
The Key To Becoming a GOOD Pick Up Artist
Some of the most successful pickup artists have a skill that can NOT be taught on the workshops, in fact the pick up artist probably doesn’t even know he has this skill as its unconscious, or outside the real of their consciousness and they don’t even know they have this unique skill.
That skill is the “unwavering belief in themselves”
Some would say this is confidence and they would be right, it’s also a mixture of arrogance, pride and a few other things.
This is a GOOD skill to have and I’ll tell you why in just a second.
Most budding pickup artists are in the ‘game’ for three months or less and they give up, they give it a try and go out a few times with their buddies they do about half the approaches they could do, and they say they’re not really getting the results of other PUAs out there are getting so they give up. Then a few months later they’re back again giving it another try.
There’s nothing wrong with this don’t get me wrong, in fact this is good that they remained unwavering and giving it another shot. What I am trying to say however is that you should keep going from the get go and never let rejection stop you, or “club” girls attitude deter you.
The skill the drives success in life, in business, personal relationships and other areas is persistence, it’s having this belief in yourself that you can do it and you deserve it. Most importantly is that you DESERVE IT as this will always provide you with a drive to achieve it.
Man guys I’ve coached through my workshop business have learned somewhat skills (from me and others) on being persistent at pickup even when the odds seem like they’re against you.
So what is persistence and some good examples?
I’ve met a lot of successful pick up artists in my life either when I’m interviewing them, running a workshop on some of my travels and bumping into them or just been introduced to them and these insightful guys all possess the skill of persistence and belief.
Persistence:
· Continuity: the property of a continuous and connected period of time
· Doggedness: persistent determination
I like the last word DETERMINATION.
Some good examples of PUA Persistence:
** Never let a rejection from a girl deter or stop you from more approaches
** Never let a bad breakup deter you from feeling for another girl again in the future
** Always be positive in-light of any circumstances (this will always guide you to a solution)
** Even if she has a boyfriend be persistent as most girls who say they have a partner don’t in fact and she’s just testing you.
To become a pick up artist you need the skill of persistence, if you get shot down or rejected then take a breather, have a coffee, don’t get inside your head and think “why, what’s wrong, what am I doing wrong” etc just have a break and keep going. This is the best way to get good at this.
Talk soon
Your friend,
Alex
