Chick Magnet Interviews Alex Coulson On DayGame and Picking Up Women
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In this interview Graham Stoney from Chick Magnet interviews me on Day Game, Starting Conversations with women during the day, making them laugh and much more.
This hour long interview contains no boring theory, fluff or filler content just techniques, stories and practical tips you can implement starting today, this is not to be missed.
Warmly,
Alex Coulson
Why Men Are Shy Around Women – Eliminate The Fear Finally
Q:Why are men shy around women…
Research suggests that approach anxiety and “FEAR” around women stems back to the stone age where we would live in small tribes on this planet, tribes no bigger than 50 people.
This ‘shyness’ so to speak came from our inability to approach females in our tribe for fear of being physical repercussions i.e. being beaten and killed by the tribal leader or his ape like friends.
This sounds completely natural. If you were tribal leader and you found that one of your mates female mating partners was cracked onto by another male how would you react?
Would you take the biggest dinosaur bone you see (a real bone that is) and pummel him to the ground I expect.
Well welcome to the origin of our fear around women. We are shy to make moves because of this inbuilt mechanism in our genetic make up to be weary around females for fear of the boyfriend or the boyfriends friends.
To add to that we are afraid of getting rejected and here’s the main reason why …
We are still accustomed to living in small tribes or 50 person societies and being rejected by a female in such a small society will spread to the other females, the males and eventually you’ll be weeded out of existence by being rejected by other females, or being beaten with a dinosaur bone by the tribal leader.
Our shyness around women comes to down to pre-selection.
What is pre selection and why does it help us get over our nerves?
Let me explain. Have you ever walked into a bar and spotted a man surrounded by women, not good looking just an average guy but with 3 women on his side. You’ll notice that other females in the bar will turn and notice this and instantly give off attraction signals.
What attraction signals you say?
Every kind of attraction signals! They don’t even know this guy however they’re already sending signals his way to show that they’re attracted to him.
Its simply a time saving mechanism. They’re saving time by pre-selecting males with women already around him. If they’re attracted to him then she could be too thus weeding out all the other “loser guys” wanting to earn her approval by supplicating with gifts etc and being “wussie” around her.
Women are not attracted to these men.
Men will always be shy around women as like I said it’s evolutionary and inbuilt into our genes to feel this fear, it’s a matter of survival.
So the only way to get over it is to get used to it. It’ll always be there deep inside you and the only way you can deal with this shyness is by accepting it, and learning to deal with the symptoms.
If you ask somebody that’s successful with women how he deals with anxiety and he says he’s never had any then he’s lying. Everybody would have felt it at one point or another.
When you get good (with practice) at approaching women non-stop you start to notice the fear vanish, and soon there will be only a slight fear of women that will have no weight in any of your thoughts…for ever more.
I’ll talk to you soon!
Alex
Tips For Approach Anxiety – Rejection Anxiety Strategies
Today I want to talk about a simple and effective (yet somewhat DANGEROUS) technique that allows you to instantly approach beautiful women in everyday situations without fear or nervousness.
You’ve never heard about this ‘controversial’ technique before. How do I know? Because it’s my own creation, and I’ve never revealed it, until now.
But before I do, you need to understand WHY this technique works so well. Let me explain …
This technique is so effective because it utilizes one of the greatest psychological motivators there is.
“The Fear of Loss”
Here’s how it works: In life, just because you WANT something (like a hot girlfriend or a fancy car) doesn’t mean you’ll go out and get it, right?
Why not? Because most of the time our own FEARS hold us back.
So how do we overcome our FEARS and get what we want out of life?
The answer is: Make fear work for you and NOT against you. Wouldn’t that be nice for a change?
Here’s how: Let me explain a disturbing scenario.
If a mad-man kidnapped one of your family members, held a GUN to their head and said:
“If you don’t approach 3 beautifulwomen today, then I’m gonna SHOOT them!”
Would you do it? Of course you would!
You’d do it without hesitation, wouldn’t you?
And would you be SCARED of approaching women? I doubt it. You’d be SO focused on saving another person’s life that you wouldn’t even have time to feel “approach anxiety” right?
So the above gun-to-their-head story was an extreme example of how the “fear of loss” principal works. But it wasn’t real.
Now let me give you a REAL tried-and-testedmethod you can use to approach women without fear – using the “fear or loss” principal.
Here’s how it works: Invite a supportive friendto meet you in a place with lots of women around.(Like a shopping mall, grocery store, etc).
Then hand your friend $100 in five $20 bills.(if you cant afford $100, then use a smaller amount, like $50 in five $10 bills).
Say to your friend: “My goal for the next2 hours is to approach and talk to FIVE attractive women. Each time I approacha woman, you give me back $20 (or $10).
If I successfully approach five womenwithin the next two hours – then I getall of my money back, if I don’t, thenyou get to keep my money. Got it?”
RULES: If I approach a woman and she slaps me, pokes me in the eye, or kicks me in the balls – it doesn’t matter. My goal today is just to approach, nothing more.
And that my friend, is a fantastic way to get over your fears of approaching women.
Now go out there and do it!
Your Friend,
Alex
How To Be More Confident Around Hot Women
If you’ve ever tried approaching an attractive woman, then you know that most of your success with her depends on your self-confidence.
Women love guys will confidence and this is a well-known fact, however how easy is it to find this confident core that’s hiding inside you in slumber.
So what tips should you follow if you lack self-confidence around women? and want to feel more empowered when talking to very attractive women.
Well here are a few tips you can use to raise your self-esteem around these high caliber women:
1) Learn to relax and be more laid back
Just before approaching an attractive woman, ease yourself into a relaxed state by paying attention to your posture and body language. Then visualize the conversation as it’s about to happen going smooth and well. Imagine yourself making her laugh and you walking away with either her phone number or HER … be as visual as you can as this will help you.
If you can remove all expectations or outcomes from the interaction with a woman then you’ll become more relaxed around women. So remind yourself that any negative outcome won’t affect your life and visualize what the worst case scenario would be … her not responding? Her walking away? Realise that you can deal with this and then approach.
2) Start meditation and exercising
There are certain activities (meditation, yoga, and tai-chi) which will make you more relaxed. By practicing these exercises (at home), you’ll be able to put yourself into a positive state whenever you need it, including the times when you’re trying to pick up women in the shopping mall, the street or your local café.
Of course I don’t mean when you see a hottie at the mall to whip out that yoga mat and start saluting the sun …of course not. However you will discover the benefits of how yoga can boost your confidence around women and in life generally.
So if you’re serious about building self confidence, then start using some of these confidence boosting tips.
3) Use your strengths
One quick way to build self-confidence is to write down all of the attractive qualities that make you a great person. Then whenever you’re faced with a situation where you’re not feeling confident, just recite the affirmations about your positive qualities.
I recall I use to do this every time I woke up in the morning. This helped me beyond doubt and boosted my overall confidence for that day. It has been said that we negativlky criticize ourselves roughly 10,000 times PER DAY… and only pump ourselves up positively around less than 1,000.
By mentally reviewing your strengths, you’ll be able to quickly ramp up your levels of confidence around women.
4) Be positive most of the time
It’s widely known that guys who smile and have a positive outlook tend to attract more women in their life.
So no matter what you’re feeling inside, ALWAYS try to have a positive outlook and do your best to be a guy who women enjoy being around. What’s funny is even when you *fake* a confident personality, you’ll eventually develop this personality trait!
I hope these confidence-boosting tips have come in handy for you and lets hope (for you sake) you’re prepared the next time you see that hottie at the supermarket!
Talk soon,
Alex Coulson
Getting In The Mood To Approach Women – Get Into State
I often find that even some of my closest friends still make excuses not to approach women and one excuse is “I’m not in the mood”.
So how exactly do you ‘get’ into the mood to approach women – Simple! Just follow some simple tips below as these will put you in the mood to approach those ladies in no time:
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Getting in the mood to approach women Tip#1
Go out with a friend and have a word for the night and the goal of the game is to say that word as many times in each interaction you have with a woman without her noticing it or pulling you up on it.
For example: My favorite word for the night is “ding dong” I’m usually out with my mate and I’ll be saying this word several times in sentences and make it flow. The girls have no idea why my mate is laughing uncontrollably but they’re intrigued.
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This is a very fun game to play – try it next time you’re out with a buddy.
Getting in the mood to approach women Tip#2
Watch a funny movie before heading out. I watch ‘there’s something about mary’ or ‘wedding crashers’ this really puts me in a light hearted mood. ‘Family guy’ is also a great pick. That way you start off the night on a good note and you may also have a few jokes up your sleeve.
Getting in the mood to approach women Tip#3
Smile; just smiling will put you in a good mood ready to approach women. It’s also a fact that men that smile more often tend to be more positive and do attract more women. Everyone is attracted to positive, smiling people and not just women! So even if you don’t feel like it turn that frown upside down and crack out your best Kodak moment smile.
Getting in the mood to approach women Tip#4
Have ONE (1) drink. You’re allowed to have a drink to feel the mood and start approaching women however ensure that you don’t rely on it always. When I head out every now and then I have a few beers as I enjoy it and it adds value to my night. I most certainly don’t need them to approach women. However if you’re still feeling the anxiety maybe a little Dutch courage will do the trick though just make it one (1) drink for starters.
I hope these tips on getting in the mood to approach women helped you.
Your friend,
Alex
Great Places To Meet Women – Hot Women Hangouts Revealed …
So where are the best places to meet women?
Before you even start to think about meeting girls you have to consider what kind of girl you’d like to meet. Just as you don’t run right out and purchase a car you don’t just walk down the street to the nearest bar, run right in and start talking to a girl. The kind of kind of girl you want will dictate the location you’ll find her in.
Pull out a pen and paper and make yourself a list. You’ll want to write down every place you can think of where women hang out. Be sure to ask your friends for their ideas and perhaps you can all share a master chick pickup list of the best places to meet girls.
If you’d like to find a girl that has a bit of culture and isn’t just a slob or a slow witted thinker you’ll want to attend local cultural events. What’s that you ask? That’s art shows, concerts, plays, food and wine tasting, and other such events. Anything that promotes higher thinking, aesthetics, or community. Women relate to people so where people gather, especially other women you’ll find women.
There’s really no need to go to a far away place. Often you’ll discover there are women right next door! So, how would you meet these women? Sponsor a block party to draw them out of their home and into a situation where they can relate to others around them, including you. One good way to get this going is to have a neighborhood barbeque. Don’t forget the beer.
If you want a girl with a great body the best places to meet girls is health and fitness clubs. Any woman who is concerned enough about her looks and her health should be very high on your list of candidates.
Your friend,
Alex coulson
Conversations With Women- Quick Pointers For Lasting Conversations
Great conversations with women are filled energy, passion and ideally should be rapport based …
Talking is such an easy thing to do. You do it everyday. But, having a conversation with a woman seems to be a difficult task for a lot of men. If you find that you’re one of those men, this article is for you.
Statistically speaking, women talk anywhere from three to four times more than a man. The easiest way to overcome verbal inertia is to start out by asking questions. In particular, questions about her. Does she like animals? What’s her job like? Where did she go to school? What’s her favorite movie? These kind of questions will get her to open up and talk. This will help you both to feel more comfortable.
As you begin to get her talk about herself don’t forget to share about yourself. She’s interested in you, too, or she wouldn’t be with you. Just don’t share information that may be too intimate. I.E. No talk of surgeries or scars, problems with your mother, or your finances. These are a huge turnoff for most women.
Learn to actively listen. When she’s talking, look at her eyes, lean forward slightly, be relaxed in your body language. These all will tell her that you’re interested in what she’s saying.
If your brave enough, ask her opinion about a topic that’s current. It doesn’t need to be a controversial topic, just something that’s of interest at the time. If you should find yourself in a heated conversation about politics, religion, or some other topic that potentially a date breaker, make sure that you’re honest, but don’t confront. You’re out to have a good time, not change her opinion.
Humor is one of the best tools in any conversation. Try being a little silly. Nothing over-the-top, just humorous. Be a bit of a flirt. Relax and have fun in your conversations with women. They will, when interested, have a fun with you, too.
Enjoy the time you are having with your date. You’ll find that any date is more fun when you take the time to:
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Ask questions
- Share about yourself
- Actively listen
- Ask her opinion
- Relax and have fun.
Have a great time!
Alex
5 Steps To Improving Your Body Language Around Women
Most guys have terrible body language which may put women off. However, by simply learning a few secrets you can instantly make a great impression.
Whatever you do, don’t look down: Just like when you are hanging off a cliff! Keep your head held upright. If you feel the need to look away, look up, never look down! Looking down is a sign of weakness and also does not look attractive. You can observe this in other people. It has even been proven that looking down can have a bad effect on your mental state.
Make slow head movements: Men of high status everywhere — on film, in business, and in your social circle — all have certain traits in common. One of these is slow, smooth movements. Don’t jerk and jolt your head around as though you’ve been drinking caffeine all day. Instead look around slowly and smoothly. Smoothness and lack of fidgety movements are the main factors.
Plant yourself when standing still: Place your feet slightly wider apart than natural; this will stop you from shifting your weight. Notice how your feet feel planted. You will feel much more stable allowing you to stand like this for long periods of time. This technique is used by martial artists; it is a solid base which increases your balance.
Do not touch your face, fidget, or fiddle: How do you normally hold your hands? Twitching and fidgeting makes you look nervous which is very unattractive; look around and see it in other people. Instead, keep your hands by your sides, placing your thumb between the index and middle fingers. This removes the natural need for your fingers to constantly be doing something.
Hold your drink by your side: Whilst holding a drink, hold it down by your side. It is a blocking action to hold a drink in front of your chest.
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