Do bad guys always get the girl?

If you believe in the movies, then you must have seen that tough and ruthless guy, Mr. Bad Boy, after killing the villains, always gets his chosen girl that happens to be the hottest girl in the movie. In the schools and colleges, we have always noticed that bad guys are always loved by the best looking girls. 

Does that leave you out in the cold because you’re a socially conditioned nice guy? That guy that was trained by his mom to be nice to girls, take them on expensive dates, buy them flowers and generally suck up to them until they start becoming the girls doormat??? Sad but true, most nice guys come last with women.

Thus, it is a common phenomenon that we find bad guys with good-looking girls. Even, if you visit a mall you can easily see a glowing goddess of beauty with a rowdy looking guy.

These guys are bad news … they treat her like dirt, call her names, beat her up and generally have no regard for her yet she’s attracted to him even more?? This doesn’t make sense to the logical type of guy but still this is what’s happening in the real world.

The reason behind this phenomenon is the “walk away” attitude. Attractive women are sick of men always groveling at their feet begging for a date and becoming needy, insecure and clinging to her desperate to keep her … then along comes the alpha uncaring male who really doesn’t care about her, only himself.

To most attractive women this is a breath of fresh air compared to the latter choice. 

There is a common notion that men need to be a hero and courageous, and at the same time we are told that we must be sensitive, and be a modern man that is in touch with their emotions and should cry every now and then.

At the same time a man, who misbehaves with his girlfriend, never shows any respect towards her, and appears to developing a fan club. Let us have a look at his scenario.

Bad guys are interesting, because they do things, which are interesting. They do what they want. They have strayed away from the normal ways of life, and they have made their own laws. They go where they want, and are answerable to no one. These kinds of guys are very interesting unlike the straight law abiding, and socially conditioned guys. They live their lives on off tracks.

We all love to counter challenges, and bad guys are themselves a challenge. Women, who are very similar to these bad boys, also like challenges. If anything is a challenge, the consequent must always be worthwhile.

The bad boys are always wayward, and the girls who love bad guys, always try to keep them to themselves, and they are ready to do great hardships to keep their hold. The more a girl tries to keep a bad guy, the more he tries to go away. This inevitably makes him more of a catch to the girl and she wants him even more.

They also try their utmost to keep the bad boy interested in her. These actions, sometimes appeal to bad boys however there remains always a fear that they may lose their hold of their bad guys.

Bad guys are always confident and self-assured, because they know that what they are doing is right. They think themselves to be the masters of themselves, and they don’t need anyone to disturb them or poke into their business.

Some can become a lover of their own selves. However, that does not make them any less attractive. The figure or shape of their bodies has no influence for most bad boys because they’re careless of other people’s opinions. In any shape, they look attractive, and outstanding. If you look at Mr. James Galdofini, from The Soprano, you mind saying that shape matters the least. Any bad guys, whether in shape or not, appear immensely attractive to women.

If we combine all the characteristics of a bad boy; confidence, strength of character, power, an immensely interesting personality and a maverick nature, then what shall we get?

All these characters combine to become a sexy beast yes? Now, think which girl can avoid loving this kind of guy. It is a wonder if these kinds of guys can be avoided.

It is not that women actually like these kind of bad guys, or that it is a good thing to be acquainted with them. However they’re drawn to the energy of these bad boys. But, it is nature’s way that women like those guys who are a little bit different from the others. It is in everybody’s heart but very few people are able to manifest that thing outside them. 

Here I am not suggesting every guy out there start beating their women up, and slapping them wildly thinking it’ll increase attraction. You can try it but expect to get arrested.

Most men should not try to be a bad guy. It is not needed at all. What I am trying to say is that we must learn some lessons from them. What is attractive in them can be modified and introduced into our social life. If your confidence level is increased, you have made your career on the right tracks, you have excelled in your work, and then it will automatically boost up your confidence, and will make you attractive.

Then you don’t need, intentionally, to become bad guys, you will be more than that- in fact you’ll be better than most other bad guys. Everybody will run after you to come close to you.

Hope you’re a little closer to the reason why women like bad boys.

Your friend,

Alex